Imagine you can’t control the many emotions slamming into you. You are young, still unsure of your own feelings and thoughts, and this only confuses you more. You feel pressure from everyone around you.
Will people accept you? Are they talking about you? Is it good? Bad?
What will you be learning today?
Does that person like you? Why? Why not?
How will your parent(s) feel about you today? Expectation? Disappointment? Pride?
What will your future hold? Should I go? Stay?
Confusion, anxiety, pressure, depression, happiness, guilt, pride, joy, determination, self-doubt, passion, compassion, and so many unnamed emotions filter through you unbidden.
Now imagine that you are told these feelings, that are natural in nature, are not normal, hurtful or dangerous. Imagine someone always saying they can fix it. Fix you. But what is really wrong with these feelings or state of mind? What is wrong with emotions? What is wrong with you? What is wrong with feeling?
I understand that some emotions can be extreme and harmful. Can become unbalanced. These that veer in the extreme should seek medical treatment. I do not discredit those symptoms or those that feel they need a better grasp on their self.
I do, however, find that in my own experience, we as a society tend to treat emotions and feelings so clinically that people are afraid to have them at all. In our society, specifically the medical field and viruses for example, we have been over treating our bodies with antibiotics so much that our bodies have resisted certain medications, or the viruses have morphed into something else that goes around the medication all together. Which is why doctors and other medical professionals do not prescribe antibiotics unless there is a justifiable, life threatening need for it.
The same goes for emotional states. We need to stop over treating our emotions because we want a quick fix. Emotions are something we as humans go through go through to help us learn and grow. Constantly sending someone to the therapist and providing chemical, receptor altering drugs to alter their pattern or emotional state when it isn’t a life-threatening cause or medically necessary is harmful in its own way.
The essence of growth is the perseverance of an obstacle in our path. Learning to live with the problem or overcome it. Either way, we grow from the experience and our bodies recognize those emotions and adjust accordingly in the future. When you completely erase the process of feelings, it stents the ability of the human state to process a situation properly.
Allow yourself to feel again. It could be scary. It could be all consuming. You could feel drained or damaged, or you could feel triumphant and amazing. Remember feeling damaged isn’t always a bad thing. When we feel a real low, low, it prompts us to change. Giving us a boost. Change is scary. Take it from someone who has bad general and social anxiety. Atmosphere change can be a big problem for me. But I push through it. Sometimes for the better and sometimes not. But I do learn from each experience. I learn more about myself and how I react to things. When you break a bone, no matter how painful, it usually heals stronger. Same goes for muscles. A muscle being cut heals stronger with new, thicker muscle tissue.
So, when you do things that are hard or painful or uncomfortable, you will come out of it better, and more capable next time. This also applies to anyone suffering emotions, even children.
Parents, please let your kids have emotions. Do not just shame them or shove them at the first counselor offered when they start to become upset. Let them know it is ok to feel things. Ask them about it. I know it won’t be easy. I have kids too. Sometimes you want to protect them other times my own anxiety and frustration peaks at their outbursts and it makes you want to duct tape their mouths shut. It doesn’t mean that their or your emotions are any less valid.
You may not always know what to say to them to fix it or make it better, but the truth is, you don’t have to. Let them break down. Let them yell. Allow them to get angry. Allow them to storm off or slam a door. My kids have a punching bag that helps them let out some of their pent-up emotions. Leave them alone if they need it or sit in a room with them while they vent it out. You know why? It is healthy to feel.
Allow them or yourself time to sort through the emotions and name them. “I feel ______________ because of _______________.” When you talk it out, give the feeling a name, you have a place to start. You will be able to recognize that feeling in the future and know what to do to calm yourself down if it happens again. You recognize it for what it is and move past it. If you can’t, then seek medical or professional treatment. I know this may not help everyone but for some it may.
If anyone ever asks you to talk to someone about it because they can’t handle your emotional state, ask them “what is so wrong with feeling?”
Apollodorus of Phalerum once stated: “Before that I led a perfectly haphazard existence, and though I thought that I was getting somewhere, I was in fact the most wretched creature imaginable – quite as wretched as you are now – and believed that the pursuit of wisdom was the last thing a man should devote himself to.” (Plato, The Symposium, pg. 34). This can sum up a lot of my younger years in life, as I am sure there are more people this can relate to as well.
My name is Georgia Grace and I am a writer. Mostly consisting of romance, all types, but I also like to extend my work into many areas. You can get a taste of that within my blogs and short stories on this fabulous site.
As a writer, I am always researching and being creative. Writing is how I express my creativity, along with some other random outlets, but as adults we just go through life. One day at a time, going in circles and never truly getting anywhere except to the next second, minute, hour, day or moment. In todays society we are always pushing to progress, but it seems our history has been swept aside so easily that it becomes nothing more than a mistake at times. However, what we fail to understand, as a society, is that history creates wisdom. Within those moments in time, our history, our flaws, our triumphs, our inevitable decisions are how we can create different outcomes in the future. It is within the wisdom of our mistakes and haphazard that we grow. Focusing on how to get things right or wrong or perfect, can also create wretched monsters of us as well.
I am a writer, yes, but I am so much more. I am a mother, wife, rescuer, sinner and saint and through life’s ups and downs I am gainfully employed. I have extensive education, both in the classroom and in life. Some of those degrees consist of CPC, CNA, CSFS, a Bachelors in HIM and an Associates in Applied Science. I have experience as a veterinary technician, management, the medical field, sales, retail and so many other adventures that it would take too long to explain on here. Plus, I would probably bore you with details. At a certain point either people are impressed, or they stop listening, so I will just save us the trouble and move on…
In order to get to know me, you would have to understand me. One way to do that is to delve deeper into my essence and beliefs as a person. This can be found in my writings within this platform. I plan to post blogs and short stories while I am a part of this fantastic group of writers and I hope that you will enjoy some of my wisdom and passion, as I share it with you. If you feel that my style is one you enjoy, keep a look out for my book, soon to be published, in an attached link when I have one.
Other than that, happy reading and remember, You Can’t Have History Without A Little Story In It.