Your time consists of lists, errands, appointments, responsibilities. Some of you want the chaos, some of you got them thrown on you unexpectedly, and some of them you knew about but didn’t want. You may be a single parent, married, expecting, having a hard time, or feeling pulled down. Sometimes the overwhelming feeling of always having things to do can become normal and when it is time to “try” and relax you are so unable to do so, barely able to function, that it only frustrates you more.
I am here to say, “just give up.”
It can seem impossible. I know.
“How can I just not go to that appointment?”
“How can I not take my kids to their after-school sports?”
“I have to get the laundry done after I finish work.”
“I have four kids and they all have appointments all week long, every single day. I can’t just not go. That would throw everything off.”
“If I do not make their breakfast, lunch or dinner they will have nothing to eat.”
These may seem like all valid reasons and they all are in their own ways. So much of our time is spent doing things. Worrying and organizing is built into our DNA. Sometimes it is ok to say “NO.”
Don’t we tell our kids that? Haven’t we been told that as kids?
We always say we will take a break when we have time, when we are done, and so on.
My advice is to do it. Stop putting it off. You cannot take care of your family if you are not taken care of.
Stop what you are doing and learn how to relax again. Learn how to know what YOU want again.
Make it a goal. Schedule it if you have to.
That appointment you may miss or cancel will still be there later. You can always reschedule it. The laundry will not mold or grow to a mountain in 24 hours, unless you are in my house, and then that is just normal life. The kids may get mad if you want to stay in a relax instead of drive around for after school activities, but guess what? They will get over it.
Your kids, depending on how old they are, can learn how to make their own food, or you can prepare for your off day by making their meals the day before. Take a breath, try yoga, go for a walk, sit at the park, or if you can, do not get out of bed. Binge movie watching. Do you remember doing that when you were younger? You can still do it. Take a sick day, yes work may be mad, but you are a person and your employers are people too. They want breaks every once in a while, too. Those responsibilities will seem less harsh if you have a more relaxed attitude the following day.
Stop the guilt about needing time and start focusing on the positives of it. You will be more relaxed, your attitude will improve, you will be more focused at home and out of it, and you will be more in tune with you; maybe even in the bedroom. You always see and read how sex can relieve stress, well think how much more enjoyable it would be if you were already relaxed when you started? Not having to focus or try to clear your mind of everything before you even start would be enjoyment all on its own.
The health benefits alone could be a positive. I personally noticed that taking time will not only relax your mind and your attitude but help in other areas. My muscles relax more, I have also experienced less headaches and body aches. This can help with metabolic functions too like hypertension, heart strain, organ functions and so forth. It helps my mind relax, which in turn helps with my own personal issues of anxiety, which in turn aides me in having more stamina. When you have kids, stamina can be a commodity. Same goes for people suffering with anxiety and depression. When you are married, like me, stamina in general can also be a commodity. This is one section of your marriage that your partner can reap the benefits of and enjoy as well. So, in the end it helps just giving up can have so many other benefits, with so many other health factors.
Take the time. Take your mind back. Learn to just give up and take a breath once in a while. It will be beneficial to you and to those around you.
Apollodorus of Phalerum once stated: “Before that I led a perfectly haphazard existence, and though I thought that I was getting somewhere, I was in fact the most wretched creature imaginable – quite as wretched as you are now – and believed that the pursuit of wisdom was the last thing a man should devote himself to.” (Plato, The Symposium, pg. 34). This can sum up a lot of my younger years in life, as I am sure there are more people this can relate to as well.
My name is Georgia Grace and I am a writer. Mostly consisting of romance, all types, but I also like to extend my work into many areas. You can get a taste of that within my blogs and short stories on this fabulous site.
As a writer, I am always researching and being creative. Writing is how I express my creativity, along with some other random outlets, but as adults we just go through life. One day at a time, going in circles and never truly getting anywhere except to the next second, minute, hour, day or moment. In todays society we are always pushing to progress, but it seems our history has been swept aside so easily that it becomes nothing more than a mistake at times. However, what we fail to understand, as a society, is that history creates wisdom. Within those moments in time, our history, our flaws, our triumphs, our inevitable decisions are how we can create different outcomes in the future. It is within the wisdom of our mistakes and haphazard that we grow. Focusing on how to get things right or wrong or perfect, can also create wretched monsters of us as well.
I am a writer, yes, but I am so much more. I am a mother, wife, rescuer, sinner and saint and through life’s ups and downs I am gainfully employed. I have extensive education, both in the classroom and in life. Some of those degrees consist of CPC, CNA, CSFS, a Bachelors in HIM and an Associates in Applied Science. I have experience as a veterinary technician, management, the medical field, sales, retail and so many other adventures that it would take too long to explain on here. Plus, I would probably bore you with details. At a certain point either people are impressed, or they stop listening, so I will just save us the trouble and move on…
In order to get to know me, you would have to understand me. One way to do that is to delve deeper into my essence and beliefs as a person. This can be found in my writings within this platform. I plan to post blogs and short stories while I am a part of this fantastic group of writers and I hope that you will enjoy some of my wisdom and passion, as I share it with you. If you feel that my style is one you enjoy, keep a look out for my book, soon to be published, in an attached link when I have one.
Other than that, happy reading and remember, You Can’t Have History Without A Little Story In It.